So we have fun with our little intimate moments. Find out we have made a baby. Go through 9 months of emotions, joy, and sometimes agony. So that we can have the worst pain ever in order to get the best reward ever. We teach them how to talk, walk, eat,poop, pee, run, play, all sorts of things so that they can become teens and scream FUCK YOU at the top of their lungs to rebel against us.
I consider myself sort of lucky in that my oldest, my daughter, is a good kid for the most part. She minded her p's and q's and learned the lessons we tried to teach her with minimum backlash. My son on the other hand is an entirely different story so this will be a post all about him.
My son was born the end of July after making me sick and miserable from the moment I found out I was pregnant LOL, he was trying to help mommy loose the baby weight she gained with his sister unfortunately eating only to throw it up immediately was not my idea of a great weight loss program. Well between pregnancy and birth I should have taken them as signs of what was to come. He was born in less than 2 hours from reaching the hospital...labor snuck up and kicked my ass with that boy LOL.
He didnt breastfeed very long at all because he needed more than I could offer him. He was on to solids like scrambled eggs and mashed potatos by the time he was 6 months old. By 3 he didnt nap anymore...like the 5 minute power naps he had been taking for 3 years even counted as naps. He was always on the move always finding what new naughty things he could get into and tear apart.
Oh the defiance of why the hell doesnt this kid just get it already???!!!!! If you sneak into the freezer at 2 am and steal the ice cream that you then leave under the chair you will get your ass paddled.....NEVER CAUGHT ON!!! He was little when the sneaking started..like he can walk without holding on to anything little! It didnt matter where things were hidden he would find them and eat all of what ever it was.
Now he is 16 and I dotn want to say out of control but he doesnt give a shit. Grounding? Yeah right only if I handcuff his ass to me can I be certain he wont take off as soon as I go pee. Take away his stuff? What stuff he doesnt have anything anymore...clothes but I am not going to have him run around naked LOL. I dont buy him anything...why would I reward his bad behaviour?
Well he has been on probation since he was 13 because of his stupid choices. He is a brilliant and amazing kid, not just a mommy opinion, yet he lacks pretty much any hint of common sense. Since that time it has been a struggle. I cannot keep him in school...not even when he was in court ordered court school. He does stupid shit that most people would realize DUH that is going to get you in trouble. Fighting, climbing on school roofs in the middle of the night to drink, stealing, all kinds of shit and what do we get when he gets caught? I didnt do nothing why are you guys always on my ass? Well when I have to pick your ass up from the cops because of drinking on a school roof and other things that could follow your ass around until you are dead you bet your sweet ass I am going to give you the riot act!!!!
Why the hell do kids put themselves into positions like this? Why cant they just freaking get it? Why cant I be the mom that just throws in the towel and stops caring about anything he does? Sometimes I wish I didnt love him as much or that I didnt care so much but I love him desperately. He is my baby. He is momma's boy. I want to fix all this crap that he causes for himself but I cant. Therefore why cant I just bash him in the head until he gets it?
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He needs the Lord in his heart. He is the only one who can change our sin nature. I'm so glad He saved me and changed my life. Without Him, I don't know where I would be.
ReplyDeleteI'll be praying for him.
Sophie
Sophie I appreciate your words and I do appreciate your prayers for my son as well. I am hoping that he will get a serious case of grow the hell up before it is too late. Though I am not a religious person I will say I am a spiritual person. I just hope that things will turn around for him and that he will choose to find things that are much more positive for him. LOL I would so much rather he become the most hardcore religious person on the planet then to continue down this path he is currently on.
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ReplyDeleteYou don't have to call people pathetic bitches.
ReplyDeleteYes anon I deleted your post because it really has no business on this thread or on my blog. If you have something to say to me say it on the proper site since you know where I am.
ReplyDeleteSorry you are having to deal with this crazy shit. I can tell you can handle it.
ReplyDeleteNic
Aww Shannon. My heart breaks for your boy it really does. I can feel how anguished you are in your heart. What does he LOVE? Not the things you've grounded him from in the past..I mean what does he really love? What are his hobbies? I will also say a prayer for him (And I know you aren't religious but just keeping all the bases covered for him just in case)
ReplyDeleteI send you many drinks and a hug. Been on vacation for a week and I have alot of online catching up to do. Missed You!
Missy (MJP)
Has your son ever been diagnosed or treated with ADD or nething of the nature? Maybe there is something more wrong if that hasnt been looked into. Maybe some medication could be an answer to help in some areas..who knows?
ReplyDeleteHe was actually diagnosed with ADHD at the age of 7. He was at one time up to 15mg of Ritalin before they switched him to Adderal. When he was on the Adderal he was up to 10 mg in the morning 5 mb of ritalin in the afternoon and another 5 mg of Adderal at dinner time. I had a 12 year old who was no longer growing, eating, or sleeping. He stayed the same size from the age of 10 until he was 13.
ReplyDeleteHis behavior was getting worse on the meds then it was when he was off the meds and the only answer was to increase his dosages but he was maxed out for what he could take based upon his weight. I had to make the choice to take him off the meds because it just wasnt seeming to be healthy especially when they wanted to give him ANOTHER med to take in order to sleep at night. I have thought about checking into meds now that he is older but he refuses to even try. He really didnt like the way life was on the meds.
It is a delightful catch 22
Teens are hard. You think it will get easier as the get bigger, but the poblems get bigger too!! Hang in there. Soon will come the day when you can say, "See...I told you Mommy knows best"!
ReplyDeleteShannon, hi! I'm coming from her goddess's (snicker, snicker) blog frog and I just had to tell you I can't standthe McKmama worship either, lol. The woman seriously makes me itch.
ReplyDeleteThere's only so much, lol.
McKmama: I just pooped a storm after three days being constipated.
Wolverine #1: OH WOW! AM I really the FIRST to comment? I'm first in line to wipe you!!!
Wolverine #2 - Darn! I'm not the first in line?? I'm so disappointed. Isn't it amazing how similar we are, I pooped today too! And I COULD have been the first in line to wipe you, tooif Jesus hadn't made my hubby use the last piece of toilet paper ...
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Hi Shannon,
ReplyDeleteI just wanted to let you know, both of my kids have ADHD and are on Concerta. It worked wonders for mine, maybe you could give it a shot? Couldn't hurt anything, and it doesn't make them 'zone out' the way Ritalin does. It does decrease the appetite, but I just made sure they eat before they take it in the morning, and by about 5pm it has worn off and they eat dinner. Oh yeah, it's only taken once a day, too. It's time released (another good thing about it).
Just a thought...